The transition to parenthood is one of the most significant tests a couple relationship faces.
Research shows 67% of couples experience significant relationship decline within 3 years of having a baby. The decline is not inevitable. The 33% who maintain or improve their relationship share specific skills and habits. This clinical work teaches those skills — before, during and after.
Five dimensions that decline — all addressable.
The Gottman research identifies exactly what happens and when. Understanding the pattern is the first step in interrupting it.
Emotional connection
Partners feel less known and understood by each other. Love Maps — the detailed knowledge of your partner's inner world — deteriorate fast under new parenthood without deliberate maintenance.
Physical intimacy
Declines sharply and recovers slowly without deliberate effort. The research is specific about why — exhaustion, body image, role shift, resentment — and equally specific about pathways through.
Co-parenting alignment
Disagreements about roles, discipline and approach escalate. The argument about how to handle the toddler's tantrums is rarely just about the tantrum. It's about whose values, whose family, whose way.
Positive sentiment
Appreciation, warmth and fondness erode under sustained pressure. The emotional bank account that all conflict draws on empties faster than couples realise without active investment.
Before, during, and after.
Before the baby arrives
The most powerful window. Couples who do the work before the baby arrives are significantly more resilient in the first year. The BBH program is ideal here. Individual couples sessions are also available for couples with pre-existing issues that need attention before birth.
Bringing Baby Home →The first year and beyond
For couples where the first year (or two, or three) has already done significant damage. The distance has been building. The pattern is established. Repair is absolutely possible — but it requires clinical work, not just a weekend away.
Couples Counselling →When parenting is the battleground
The argument about the toddler's tantrums is almost always partly a couple issue. Addressing the couple dynamic underneath the parenting disagreement is what produces lasting change. Not parenting coaching — couples work.
Couples Counselling →A two-minute check before it becomes an argument.
You do not need a session to start this conversation. These are the six areas that come under most pressure after a baby arrives — asked as questions rather than scored, because the point is to talk about the transition without turning it into a blame session.
Who notices, plans and carries the invisible work?
How much warmth, friendship and repair remains in ordinary days?
What changed in how each of you sees yourself?
What routines are helping, and which ones are quietly hurting?
Where does the family need practical or emotional backup?
What is the smallest change that would lower the pressure this week?
If you want to do this regularly rather than once, the weekly Relationship Check-in is a free, structured version of the same conversation.
"The greatest gift you can give your baby is a loving relationship between the two of you."
The research is unambiguous: child outcomes — emotional regulation, social development, academic achievement, resilience — are significantly shaped by the quality of the relationship between their parents.
Bringing Baby Home — Session by Session →Ready to take
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