Support for couples facing disconnection, conflict, resentment, parenting pressure, repair after rupture, or the strain of early family life. EFT and Gottman integrated. Built with the father's experience visible.
Arguments escalate quickly or end in silence, distance and unresolved hurt. The content changes. The pattern doesn't. You're not fighting about the dishes. You're fighting about something the dishes represent.
The couple relationship has been buried under sleep deprivation, role asymmetry, resentment and the logistics of keeping a baby alive. You're efficient co-parents. You're not sure you're still a couple.
There is still care. But trust, warmth, or physical connection needs deliberate rebuilding. You know the relationship is worth repairing. You don't know where to start.
Individual couples-oriented work — working on the relational system from one person — frequently shifts the dynamic enough that the other partner becomes willing within months. Coming alone is a strong place to start.
EFT works with the attachment system that underlies relationship conflict. The pursuer-withdrawer cycle is the surface expression of unmet attachment needs. EFT makes those needs visible, makes it safe to express them, and creates the conditions for genuine emotional responsiveness between partners.
The Gottman Method adds specific, learnable skills: gentle start-up, repair attempts, self-soothing when flooded, processing a fight after it's happened. Skills on a foundation of emotional understanding land differently than techniques alone.
Mapping the cycle and understanding what drives it for each partner. Slowing things down enough to see what's actually happening.
Building new patterns of emotional access, expression and response. Practising skills in the room before using them at home.
Consolidating skills, repairing specific ruptures, preparing for sustainability. Most couples see meaningful shift within 8–12 sessions.
Maps your negative cycle — how you fight, not what you fight about. The best starting point before a first couples session.
Start →Identifies which Gottman patterns are present in your relationship and gives you the specific antidote for each.
Start →If the strain is perinatal — a baby changed things — the Bringing Baby Home program may be a useful complement to couples counselling.
A free 20-minute phone call — no forms, no obligation.